Saturday, December 20, 2008

My Friend in a Baggie

My Friend in a Baggie.

Last year Nick, my oldest and dearest friend, died on 12/21/2007. ( I miss Nick terribly. He was always there for me, somewhere in the background, with his quick wit, cynical humor, and quiet attitude. Nick was the keeper of my stories and now that he is gone, those stories have no sounding board.

I am in possession of my friend Nick. He resides in a baggie, which is inside another bag full of pictures and history. I am not sure what to do with his ashes. There is a part of me that doesnt want to do anything with them. They have become mine and I am a keeper of memories. So Nick sits in baggie.

I decided to look around and see what other people do with the ashes of those they cared about. It's pretty amazing. None of these options are anything I would do with Nick.... but I think he would get a kick out of seeing some of them.

  • Pagodas hold peoples ashes

  • Cardboard coffins, shell-shaped urns and fireworks that can be packed with people's ashes were met by smiles at the Natural Death Center's Green Funeral Exhibition Saturday in London.

  • The huggable urn!

  • The planned launch sometime in March of a rocket carrying the ashes of actor James Doohan, who played chief engineer Montgomery Scott on "Star Trek," and Mercury program astronaut Gordon Cooper will give a fitting send-off to two men who helped popularise human space exploration.
  • Forget burial or cremation, there is a new option for disposing of human bodies in which a lye solution dissolves tissues into a sterile syrupy substance that can be safely flushed down the drain.
  • The "crime scene" at the Pirates of the Caribbean attraction after a woman spread ashes of her loved one there. It took the Disney crew more than an hour to clean the attraction of the ashes.  But by far the most popular location in Disneyland to spread ashes of loved ones is in the Haunted Mansion attraction. I suppose they hope to see their face among all those other spirits you see during that ride. Yet another popular ride to spread ashes is the "Small World" exhibit ... apparently so the spirit of the beloved can hear that nearly-imposible-to-get-out-of-your-head ""It's a Small World After All" song for all eternity.

  • Diamonds Really Are Forever..
    An Algordanza employee shows an example of a diamond next to ashes. The small company, based in the mountainous southeast Switzerland, uses the ashes of dead people to make diamonds, as a permanent memento for their nearest and dearest.A small company, based in the mountainous southeast Switzerland, uses the ashes of dead people to make diamonds, as a permanent memento for their nearest and dearest.
"Nick in a baggie". I really think Nick would appreciate the humor of finding himself inside a baggie.

I miss you Nick.



  1. I too think Nick would be fine with being in a baggie!

    Some of those other options though... who knew that cleaning up the ashes of dead people would be a big problem for Disney? I'm dumbstruck.

    I like the blast them into space option for Scotty and the astronaut although I seem to remember that the rocket failed or something.

    The others are kind of boring although the teddy bear is cute. All in all, a baggie is a fine solution. The ashes are just ashes, it's the memories that matter.

    He was a gentle man and a great friend, I miss him too.

  2. There's an artist in Austin who used his father's ashes in a glaze for ceramic tiles. He then tiled the area around his fireplace with them! It was beautiful!
    I have my Mom's ashes, and was thinking of saving some of them to so something similar (the rest are to be spread in the bottom of the Grand Canyon....her request).
    I would think that your friend Nick would be very pleased that you have him in a baggie along with other memories of him!
    Blessing to you during these holidays!

  3. julie... thats funny... Nick lived in Austin.... and died there. Mixing the ashes in a glaze sounds wonderful.

  4. You have found alot of different ways to memorialize with ashes. Your choice depends on how you will best remember Nick. This is a healthy expression of your grief. If it's a baggie let it be a baggie! For more interesting ideas and reading check out

    with care,